HUM KISI SAY KUM NAHI..

kiya larki honay say murad ye hay kay khud se juday tamam faislay apnay qarebi logon ki marzi say karna..khas toar par parhai or phir carrier ka faisla..

Aj is 21st century may loag apni betion ko acha parhnay ki ijazat to detay hain magar un ka parhai kay bad carrier bananay ko acha nhi smjha jata.

      Aik survey kay mutabiq 100 mse 17% hi apni field ko jari rakh pati hain.

Is se ye bat bhi samnay ati hay kay waldain apni betion kay achay rishton kay liye unko aala taleem dilwatay hain.Goya achi degree to acha rishta.Agr muashra larkion ko unki marzi ki field may kaam karnay or naam bnanay ki ijazat day to muashra khud keh uthay gah kay larkian kisi say kum nhi or aisa karnay say na sirf un larkion kay gharanay mustehkum hongen balkay ye mulk bhi taraki karay ga.

by:tehreem ilyas

Challenges Faced by Women

Women workers face different challenges in the workplace like gender based discrimination, harassment, domestic restriction, work and family issues and unequal pay

In the past few decades, the role of women in our society has been drastically changed. Women can be seen as fighter-jet pilots, educationists, customer services head, company executives, admin heads, banking, HR and telecom sector. Women are making a tremendous contribution in each sector. Men are no longer considered as the only bread earner of the house. Women of the family are now also financially supporting their family. Though the number of working women is increasing day by day but still there are certain barriers that they have to cross to prove themselves beneficial for the job market.

Gender based discrimination:

Working men are usually given unfair advantage in comparison to the working women. In this male dominating society, men are considered more hardworking, intelligent and better employees than women. This gender discrimination result in increased level of stress and job dissatisfaction. It also decreases motivation to work and commitment towards the job.

Basically women are given lesser opportunities for quality education which in turn results in lack of knowledge regarding technological advancement.

Domestic Restrictions:

Earlier women were restricted to their home and their primary role was to take care of household chores. With time, due to increase in economic pressures on families this restriction has been released. Now in most of the families women are also allowed to get higher education and do paid jobs but under certain restrictions. The maximum percentage of working women can be seen as health workers, educationist, clerks or any other low paid job that are not much preferred by men because of the lack of growth opportunities and low pay-scale. Women are allowed to do such jobs because of the female dominant environment. This thing has restricted the woman's exposure to other available opportunities and limited their growth in the developmental sector. After all day of work at office, no matter how tired they are, they also have to look after domestic chores. 

Harassment at work place:

Harassment is another main problem faced by working women, as they are considered an easy target by the male colleagues. Most of the women in Pakistan came out of their house to earn money only at the time of extreme need, they are much vulnerable and colleagues and higher management harass them by passing inappropriate remarks or making fun of them or in extreme cases they harass them sexually.

Usually women remain silent on such acts or ignore them or put up with it in fear of losing their job. They are reluctant to make allegations against the culprits. Some of them resign to get rid of all this because they know that it is of no use to make a complaint against them. Corrupt officers and higher authorities do not support them. Strict laws are there to support working women but only if all this gets reported. This is one of the major reasons why families do not allow women to work.

Lower Pay-scale:

The employer should ensure that uniform wages should be paid to both men and women on an equal amount of work done. In many workplaces, employees are not allowed to discuss their salaries because of which no one ever comes to know if they are paid less or not. Bullying, harassment and abusing are vivid acts but lower wages is a silent offense, no one makes any complaint and the problem continues.

Women are paid less because employer has this preset concept that she will quit the job after marriage or after having children. Women earn low also because they have to choose a less challenging job for themselves so they can spend more time at home. Parenthood affects the woman's career adversely in contrast to men.

The organization should offer some family-friendlier policy and also make sure equal wages should be given to the employees without gender discrimination. Remaining silent on such act means that we are silently supporting this crime.

Married Working Women:

Most of the married women are not allowed to do a job and also, it becomes difficult for them to maintain work and household chores equilibrium because of increased responsibility. Traditionally, men are the bread earners of the house and it is not appreciable if women support the family financially or if women earn more than men.

Married working women also face problems at work. It is not possible for them to work in late hours. Most of the workplaces do not have nurseries or daycare where mothers can keep their children.

Negative attitudes of male co-workers:

Attitude of male co-workers is sometimes really humiliating and biased. It is considered that women are hired just to add colour to the office environment. Lack of workplace social support, from colleagues and supervisors leads to absenteeism, low turnover and job dissatisfaction. Higher authorities should try to establish a supportive and conducive work environment.

Transport:

The transport system in our country is very poor. This is a big hindrance for the women who have to go out for a job. Men and women both have to face this problem. Despite the inadequate availability of the public transport, women also have to face harassment. They are bound to travel on buses and vans because taxis are expensive.

The government should address this problem on priority basis. Separate public transport can solve this issue.

What they need to do?

To face challenges successfully, women need to be self-confident and should keep herself up to date with the latest happenings in the world of technology. The internet has now solved the problem of limited opportunities, as every internet savvy person can access to the world of knowledge and information. So women should keep surfing the internet to increase their knowledge. Good communication skill is also a necessity; it helps in building social network which in turn helps in appraising whenever there are new opportunities available. Meeting deadlines is also important to prove yourself worthy. Another most important thing is to maintain balance in work and personal life.

Also there is a need to educate men and tell them to respect other women like they respect women in their family. They should show flexibility in their attitude and should accept that women can perform even better than them.

تعلیم یافتہ خواتین۔۔۔۔ معاشرے کا اہم سرمایا

ہمارے معاشرے کا المیہ یہ ہے کے خواتین کے ساتھ صنفی امتیاز ہر دور میں رواں رکھا گیا ان کے حوصلے پست کئے گئے اور اُنہیں ہمیشہ ہی کمزور اور بیکار مخلوق گردانا ۔ اِسلام نے عورتوں کو ناصرف اُن کا حق دیا بلکہ اُنہیں معاشرے میں تسلیم بھی کیا اور آگے بڑھنے کا حوصلہ بھی دیا جس کی بہترین مثال یہ ہے کے اسلام عورتوں کو تعلیم حاصل کرنے کی اجازت دیتا ہے بلکہ ساتھ ہی اُنہیں  اسے استعمال کرنے کی اجازت بھی دیتا ہے مگر افسوس اس بات کا ہے کے ہمارا معاشرہ آج بھی زمانہ جاہلیت کے اصولوں پہ جی رہا ہے اور خواتین کے حقوق کی پامالی کررہا ہے بس طریقے کار میں جدت آگئی ہے۔
آج خواتین کو ہمارے معاشرے میں اعلی تعلیم حاصل کرنے کی اجازت تو ہے مگر یہ صرف محض اچھی جگہ پہ شادی کی غرض سے ہے یا معاشرے میں اپنا معیار بلند رکھنے کے لیے علاوہ ازیں والدین سمیت تمام زمانے کو لڑکی  کے کام کرنے پہ اعتراض ہوتاہے زمانہ ڈگری والی لڑکی کو پسند کرتا ہے مگر پیشہ وارانہ لڑکی کو نہیں اور آج معاشرے کے اِس اندھے نظام کے پیشِ نظر کئی اعلی تعلیم یافتہ لڑکیاں گھر بیٹھی ہیں اور ان کی ڈگریاں زائع ہو رہی ہیں اگر ہمارے معاشرے میں یہ ہی اندھا قانون نافذ رہا تو ہم اپنا قیمتی سرمایا گنوا دیں گے کیونکہ آج ہماری خواتین مردوں کے شانہ بشانہ کام کررہی ہیں اور آج ان کی اہمیت سے کوئی انکار نہیں کرسکتا۔

Degree for marriage

A new trend is rapidly getting hype in our society and that is educating girls for the sake of their marriage proposals. In short "Degree for marriage”. In past this society was use to oppress and hinder women for in their ways to higher education but this trend has suddenly taken a new shape where parents and society have given them right to get higher education and they are often encourage to get admission in well-known universities but only for the purpose of making them more eligible of golden proposals. All these parents who usually encourage them to get higher education are often seen to discourage them to get into professional careers. Hence society loses well-qualified and educated individuals.

Writer: Shafaque Nasir

Discrimination On Women Carrier

Women are allowed to fulfill something she loved to do. Now adays it is very commonly used by our parents that they are giving education to their daughter to get good marriage proposal. I must say no girl is bother to win a degree to get marriage. Actually herself she is Master of chief, philosopher of thoughts, PhD of care, arts of managing her home and financer of her own house. She has a world inside in which she perform all her duty but not as a duty but as a love in love of her family. So I completely disagree with this opinion that women are educated for good marriage proposal. Every female can study as it is her right, even our Islam tells us to get education.

Prophet Mohammad S.A.W said,

“The best gift from a father to his child is Education and Upbringing”

So according to Islam every child must be educated. Further it can be elaborated by this hadees;

The Prophet Mohammad S.A.W said,

"Attainment of knowledge is a must for every Muslim”

It means that education is necessary for both male and female. So it is women right to learn and get education. The first word revealed was “iqra” translated as to “read” and according to hadees;

The Prophet Mohammad S.A.W said,

“Acquisition of knowledge is binding on all Muslims (both men and women without any discrimination)”

Women and men must get knowledge in a right way, there is no discrimination in Islam according to education, so it is every female right to study and get education. Now it is clear that females are study for making herself educate not for good proposal of marriage.

Now let’s talk about women and society. It is our wrong perception that women are just to serve home and can’t play her role out of her house. Some people also believe that in Islam women are not allowed to take part in other work except home chores. Let me clear this that women are completely devoid of spiritual, social, economic and political rights. Islam allowed her to educate herself and use that education for the betterment of society. Women has right to earn money if she needs or wants, even she has right to keep own property. In short she can share her ideas and opinion. Every woman has love for her country and she must take some steps for the betterment and prosperity of her country. There are many role models who played an important part for society and county. The best example of Hazrat Khadija (R.A) is here. She involved in trade and work for herself.So stop calling this that Islam didn’t give permission to a woman to work.

It is necessary to understand the feelings of women because they are also human and they also keep some desire and wishes. Just to make her marry instead of appreciate is totally nonsense and inhumane. She works hard to get degree for her better future, for accomplishment of her dreams, for the benefits of society and for her respect.

                                                                                                     Writer: Shafaque Nasir

 

A success story

When it comes to making documentaries to expose topics of injustice, particularly against women, Pakistan is a good place to start. Whereas the local community rarely celebrates, commends, or even discusses the achievements of women, the international community has become a major ‘game-changer’ in many Pakistani affairs. In this regard, we welcome American actress and philanthropist Salma Hayek’s latest production, Humaira: The Game Changer, which shines the spotlight on Pakistani female education advocate Humaira Bachal, in the hopes that the achievements of other Pakistani women will also be brought forward to celebrate.

Whether it is an accomplishment in the field of education, entertainment, science or literature, women in our country deserve to be showcased. We easily remember the achievements that men have racked up in Pakistan, but we do not so easily remember the great deeds performed by our women. When we give credit to women where it is due, we are establishing healthy role models for future generations to follow. Should more women be empowered to make a difference in society through education and various careers, they would be more accomplished than men in some ways. While taking on traditional female roles, such as providing care to children, tending to the household, and serving as the backbone of a family, they would simultaneously and courageously take on the responsibility of earning the daily bread and butter.

We have seen the films created by the likes of Sharmeen Obaid-Chinoy and we have read texts of injustice written firsthand by the likes of Malala Yousufzai. Now, we must recognise the women on the ground, who are making a difference where the government and society have previously failed, whether it is through providing girls with basic education, training women in a vocational career, or counseling young girls and women who would otherwise grow older with a poor sense of self-esteem. This sort of recognition is necessary to boost our own confidence, as a nation that pays homage to women’s achievements.